Fences are good- good for privacy, good for personal time and good for protection. To love someone is to love their fence.
To love their fence is to allow them space- space to back away, space to hide, space to process and space to find their own convictions on life and faith.
To push through the fence either causes offence that results in a stronger fence of defence, or for some, leads to broken fences and no fences.
To honour the fence is to honour the person. To mend the fence is to mend their dignity. Usually this leads to a gate. And now they know they’ve been honoured and respected, the gate leads to the heart. And that’s the greatest reward of all.